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Why Women Learn Tango

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Let's assume that you're curious about learning the wonderful dance of tango. Maybe you've seen it on TV or heard about it from a friend and thought it looked like fun?

I'm not sure there's a woman out there who doesn't enjoy the idea of dancing a beautiful, expressive and sensual dance in an embrace. But sadly some women shy away from actually doing it, or they feel they don't have the opportunity. What separates those women who decide to go ahead and learn, from those who don't?

I suggest that to a large extent it comes down to bravery. In a recent blog (the bravery of men and women who dance tango) I go into a lot more detail, but essentially there are often a good few fears involved in learning to dance, especially with another person, for women. These fears can sometimes override the many benefits of learning and dancing tango.

Some of these fears are performance and rejection related - what if you're no good at it, and men don't want to dance with you? Also it can be a little scary to be close to someone you don't know and allow them to 'lead' you. And of course some of these fears can arise from a general lack of confidence.

The good news is, if these kind of worries are keeping you from learning to dance, they can easily be overcome, and there is good reason to do so. Tango is something that everyone who can walk can learn, with a little practice and patience (much like walking). If you think of it like learning a new language or a musical instrument then you'll be on the right track, and you don't need a partner to start.

So what spurs on the brave and patient women amongst us to learn tango? What rewards can be expected? I think most of us know the answers if we take a moment to ponder. However neglected it may be, there is a dancer in all of us. Dancing is a basic human expression of creativity and emotion. Dancing with another person is an opportunity to connect, play and develop a mutual understanding - all of which are fundamentally human things to do, and lead to tango being such a worthwhile and fun activity.

There is really no other dance that I know of which offers the potential for playful and sensual connection, musical expression and fun that tango does. Neither do I know of any other dance where just walking with someone in the embrace can feel and look so good. It's a dance that just keeps giving. Simply put, women dance tango, because it gives them joy.

Of course, a knock-on benefit of learning a dance skill like tango, is that you get to meet other creative and passionate people. Naturally, developing confidence and competence in dancing - and especially tango - boosts your sex appeal, since it demonstrates vitality, playfulness, creativity, intelligence and good physical communication skills. So make sure you don't mind men finding you more attractive than ever, before you start tango.

Those are some of the obvious benefits, but women who dance tango regularly will often notice a higher level of overall contentment and energy, since doing things that meet your needs for connection, play and creativity will naturally improve your well-being. Those who start with low confidence will find that it improves, just as those that start with two left feet will find their right one with a little practice (that's really all it takes).

If after reading this you think you have what it takes to learn tango (a bit of patience, a modicum of bravery and an enjoyment of learning) check out the Tango Lingua group classes, or try a one-to-one Argentine tango lesson. You will get friendly, expert tuition, and you don't need a partner to start.